Jesus says a number of frightening things. There will be division – father against son. To whom much is given, much will be required. You’re just as bad as those who were killed by Pilate (or by a falling tower). This is all quite shocking, but the disciples need this wake-up call.
People are scared or even offended by Jesus’s power. He keeps who He is a secret, while doing things that, in retrospect, will make it obvious. This is all part of preparing his disciples for what’s coming. Some of the events are actually clever exercises for them.
Jesus sets His disciples up for their coming persecution with the beatitudes and the command to love their enemies. He points out that some people call Him Lord yet don’t do what He commands. A Centurion understands what the disciples do not. This teaches the true meaning of the word Lord.
Jesus eats with sinners, doesn’t command his disciples to fast, heals on the Sabbath, and even claims to forgive sin. Then he prays all night before choosing his disciples. What’s He up to?
Jesus won’t let demons tell everyone who He is. He prioritizes preaching and recruiting disciples over healing, while keeping part of His mission a secret. His personal touch when healing is unique.